How to become a decent woman. Why the ideal is bad and why, one should still strive for it

Instruction

Relationships are not just a beautiful life together, and even more so not permanent gifts, romantic dates and declarations of love. Relationships are built, first of all, on mutual work on each other's characters, on mutual respect and understanding. The girl should take an almost more active part in this work than the man. After all, a woman is naturally wise and endowed with patience, knows how to understand human nature and show kindness and tenderness. So why not use your best features to be perfect for!

Ideal is good both externally and internally. Yes, men like to see a well-groomed, beautiful woman next to them, but at the same time, her character is also important for them. Know how to present well, watch your body, face and clothes, but do not think that guys have to notice every detail that catches your eye. He is unlikely to understand whether you have lost weight or gained weight, whether you have changed your hairstyle. And you don’t need to sharply concentrate his attention, torment him with questions about how you look, and even more so with reproaches that he didn’t notice something. The guy notices not the details, but your image as a whole.

Internally, a girl should be calm, confident and self-sufficient. This means that she should strive to be not an addition to her boyfriend, without whom she is lonely and unhappy, but a complete person. Do not torment your loved one with a constant demand to be only with you - he also has his own interests, worries, and affairs. Don't call him every hour to check where he is and how he's doing. And don't be jealous of everyone you meet on the street. A self-sufficient and self-confident woman understands that relationships do not consist of constant control and the desire to possess a person completely. Young people see perfectly and feel a trusting attitude towards them, and they will be grateful to you for this.

In the same way that a girl believes in herself and her strength, she also believes in her chosen one. Respect for another person, his desires, interests, social circle is one of the great signs of a great relationship. It’s good if you love your partner’s hobbies and interests, but this doesn’t always work out. Then at least treat them with respect, not considering them as nonsense and a waste of time, because this part of life is important for a young person.

But what you should not do in a relationship: do not try to radically change your man. And certainly do not do this with the help of constant scandals, reproaches and reminders. No guy can handle this. But this does not mean that you need to completely step back from the development of a career or character of a young person. There is simply no need to hope that the features inherent in nature can be radically changed. From an introvert it will not work to make a sociable party. A modest performer is unlikely to become a good boss. But inspiration has always given strength to men, so give up arguments and gain faith in your man, female patience and charm in order to help him and be support for him.

Observe the behavior and desires of your chosen one. Notice that he loves and appreciates how he rests and how you can surprise him. Of course, you will not fulfill your partner's every desire and live only to fulfill his every whim. But understanding the desires of your young man is the way to understand his personality, and therefore a good relationship with him. In addition, just as you are trying to change his habits in some way, so he wants to change something in you. Therefore, mutual agreement to change will only benefit the couple. Discuss such issues together, otherwise unspoken wishes can lead to a quarrel later.

Being a good girl is not so easy, especially at the very beginning of a relationship. However, whether you met last week or celebrated the 5th anniversary of the relationship, there are some things that any girl should adhere to so that the relationship does not wither in the bud. To be a good girlfriend to your boyfriend, you need to love and support him, while maintaining your independence at the same time. And if you want to know how this can be achieved, read this article.

Steps

Be open

Don't be too open in the beginning. Relationships are best when you have enough opportunities, space, and time to get to know each other and make sure you're a good match. If you push your relationship to something and rush, then such a premature pressure can scare the guy away and ruin everything. Instead of rushing, you need to be patient and understand that it takes time to create strong and strong relationships. So, if you do not want to leave, you do not need to do the following:

• Don't make them call you "his girlfriend" after just a couple of dates. There is every chance that the imposed decision will not be to the guy's taste. Be patient and let him decide when to say the cherished words. If you are suitable for each other, then this and that will happen soon.
• No need to start talking about marriage, children and joint old age, if you don’t even know his parents or friends. If you raise these topics too early, then a certain tension will arise in your relationship, fraught with even a break in the future.
• The saying goes that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. She doesn't say you have to cook a three-course meal for a first date! You don’t need anything like that, just be attentive, listen and talk about your interests. Good for a first date.

1. Be honest. Being honest with a guy is very important, yes. And what is even more important? Be honest with yourself! If you overact or make a mistake, you can always admit the mistake and apologize. If you feel offended, hurt, then you can always sort out your feelings and express them by explaining everything to him in a non-offensive form.

   • The most important thing in this case is to be as open as possible about your own feelings. For example, if a guy says something unpleasant to you, then do not hide it in yourself, admit it - but do not scold him and do not ask him to change.
   • If you managed to achieve a good mutual understanding in the beginning, then you will soon enough understand whether this relationship will come to fruition.

2. Talk about what's on your mind. Don't be afraid to speak up about your desires, voice your needs, and voice your opinions, even if it can be fraught with conflict. Your existence, after all, should not be subordinated to the sole purpose of “pleasing him”. Don't, don't! Better show that you are also a person, you also have thoughts-feelings-desires. This approach will make the guy more interested in getting to know you as a person, as a person. Well, if you talk about what's on your mind, then the guy, believe the word, will not hide.

   • Remember that you need to express this whole thing in such a way that you don’t hurt or offend anyone. You can speak out, but do it modestly, if you do not forget about the great power of self-confidence, and also do not lose sight of the feelings of the guy himself.

3. Be yourself. You don't have to pretend to be someone to impress a guy. Yes, if it seems to you that “he likes a different type of girl”, then there may be a temptation to pretend to be, but, as a rule, it only seems to you. After all, your boyfriend wants to date you and not with the image of radiant perfection. If you want to change because the guy wants you to be thinner, prettier, quieter, etc., then this is a great sign of your incompatibility as a couple.

   • If you constantly find fault, then this is not love, but an attempt to control you.
   • No need to pretend that you share the interests of the guy, if in fact they are indifferent to you. Yes, at first it may be “harmless”, but if then the guy understands how you really feel about his hobbies, then the offense can be very, very serious. You never know, suddenly he has already started planning your future together, taking into account all this, and you are arranging such a “surprise” here?

   Maintain

   1. Find out what your boyfriend is into. Remember what he likes to do and what he likes to talk about. No need to act as if you share his hobbies, just try to at least understand what he found in all this. If he likes the band, then think what's so special about their music. If he likes to act frivolous, then consider that this may just be such a way of dealing with stress. If you learn to accept what he is, then you will learn more about yourself and even be able to understand whether you are ready to spend the rest of your life with this person or not.

      • No need to be interested everyone his interests. If he likes to watch football, and it makes you sick, then don't watch it, it's business.
      • Just ask “What are you into?” and talk on the topic already may be quite enough.

   2. Criticize less than praise. If all you say is criticism, attacks and jokes, then your relationship is unlikely to last long. However, this is also true if you agree with your boyfriend on everything, just because you have a “relationship”. Don't forget tact, which is the best strategy for a mature relationship. In other matters, it will not be superfluous to learn how to set boundaries and come to compromises.

      • Yes, if the occasion is suitable, then you can criticize - but then do not forget to pour honey on this fly in the ointment and say at least four pleasant things for every unpleasant thing you said.
      • Don't take it out on a guy if things aren't going as perfect as you'd like.

   3. Learn to compromise. If you want to be a good girl, then you have to learn to compromise, and not stand up for your opinion to the end and get angry every time something doesn’t go your way. And in order to learn how to compromise, you and your boyfriend need to learn how to calmly and rationally discuss your problems and situations, not forgetting each other's point of view. Try to understand why your boyfriend says and acts the way he does, rather than blindly focusing on your needs.

      • You shouldn't be the girl who always gets what she wants just because your boyfriend prefers to give in one more time and not listen to your tantrum that things didn't go the way you wanted again.

   4. Give each other enough personal space. Yes, you have to support your boyfriend, but that doesn't mean you have to be there all the time. Do you want to be a good girl for him? So let yourself mind your own business, meet your girlfriends and meet your boyfriend. And the guy should know that you think about him and miss him when he is not around. If you feel insecure and doubt the strength of your relationship during the moments of separation, then you have a problem ...

      • If a guy wants to spend the evening with friends - support him and let him go, but do not impose yourself and go with him. You don't want your boyfriend to get a reputation. henpecked who goes everywhere with his girlfriend?
      • If you think that he should spend all his time with you, then it's time to learn to be less intrusive. Less defensive reactions, do not follow him!
      • Don't forget that your boyfriend doesn't need you to live. You are two separate people, even if you are a couple. If he needs personal space, then do not take it as an insult. Just understand that he needs to communicate with other people. Just let him know that you are always waiting for him and miss him.

      love

      1. Be kind and loving. There are many ways to express your feelings - some are more obvious, some are less, and the choice is determined by how obvious you want to express everything yourself. Love and affection, of course, are close to intimate, but all this is not the same thing, since the first can be demonstrated at any time of the day or night, both in private and in public. Think about how to show your feelings? Holding hands? Shoulder touch? With light kisses on the cheek, hugs, hair strokes, words of encouragement, compliments, or something else? The choice is yours.

         • Some men love it when a girl refers to them as "baby" or "cute." However, do not overdo it and do not damage the guy's reputation by calling him something like that in public. On the other hand, communication is an important part of a relationship, so let him know how much you like him.
         • Regular cute texts and emails are, of course, cute. But not when several hundred of them come in a day! Yes, this is how you express your feelings towards the guy, you want it to not end, but still, do not lose sight of the boundaries, otherwise you will scare him inadvertently!

      2. Be seductive. You don't have to be afraid of this. A lot of men just can't resist if the girl is sexy, confident, and classy looking. Confidence in this case is when you are satisfied with your own appearance. If you accept yourself for who you are, and your self-esteem is in order, then there will be no problems with confidence. Don't try to be popular, try to be someone you're not, and so on. Instead, focus on taking care of yourself and trust that you are worthy of your boyfriend's attention.

      3. Give him gifts. If you are in a relationship, then giving each other small gifts is the best thing. Guys love to receive gifts, so give him something that will immediately show how much you care about him. Do not overdo it, everything should have a reason, including gifts. You don't want him to start thinking you're buying him, do you?

         • Make him a gift with your own hands. Something that he could always look at, smile at and think of you. If you have a talent for music, then you can even play him a song (or better, even sing a song of your own composition). If anything, a private YouTube video will help convey your gift.

      4. Don't be jealous. Love, of course, is necessary, but not to the point of madness. And even more so, you should not bleed with anger if your boyfriend mentions some other woman in a speech. Nothing compares to female jealousy in the speed of reducing relationships to zero. But if you decently communicate with your boyfriend's girlfriends, and not say what fear people they are, then you will be rewarded a hundredfold!

         • If your boyfriend is hanging out with his friends, don't text him every 2 minutes to make sure he's not talking to other girls. From all this, he will understand only one thing - you do not trust him.
      • Don't let your friends try to control your relationship. It's your relationship, not theirs. Yes, of course, they will have their own views and opinions about all this, but you don’t have to hang on to their every word, unless, of course, you yourself want to. Understand, sometimes your boyfriend may simply not like one of your friends - but this is normal, there are no ideal ones. Just listen to your friends and ask them to "try to get along" with your boyfriend.
      • You don't have to worry about your appearance. Have you been invited on a date? So you like it.
      • Appreciate all the good things in your relationship. Men like it when everyone appreciates it. Do you appreciate? Learn to thank him for everything he does for you, because his actions demonstrate his respect for you. And remember, not every girl is lucky to build a good relationship. Appreciate it.
      • Do not teach people how to live. Do not teach your boyfriend to live in the first place. But don't let him pressure you. Be open, including about how you feel because of his pressure. Well, by analogy - do not let him teach you how to live.
      • Try to make friends with his family and friends. They most likely mean a lot to your boyfriend, he appreciates their opinion, including about you. Respectfully communicate with his parents and try to please them. Or better yet, make friends.
      • If a guy offers to pay for you at a restaurant, consider "no, you don't have to pay for me." So you show that his money is not the main thing for you. However, if your boyfriend is old-fashioned, he may insist on paying for you. Then let him be a gentleman and do not offend him with a refusal.
      • Do not try to change and remake your boyfriend. Just tell him what you like, and if he loves you, then next time he will remember about it and act accordingly. If he is far from the image of the person with whom you are ready to spend your life, then consider whether you should look for someone else for yourself, and consider this relationship as something like an attempt to learn something.
      • If your boyfriend does not shine with initiative and is generally somehow passive, then this does not mean at all that he does not love you. Most likely, he is just modest or an introvert. Or a modest introvert. Maybe he has no relationship experience and he just doesn't know what to do. Or maybe he just hates to play in public, although in his heart he loves you, and much. Discuss with him the reasons for his behavior and understand them. Maybe he expects you to take the initiative, especially if you have more experience in relationships than he does. Or he is just such a person, and then you just need to get used to it.
      • Remember that all relationships are different and there is simply no universal way to be a good girl, since everyone has different tastes.

      Warnings

      • Jealousy is a very dangerous emotion. Don't make a guy jealous, it will seriously hurt his trust in you.
      • Don't annoy him. In other words, do not constantly call him, get angry when a guy spends time with his friends, make him spend more time with you, complain and whimper, and constantly ask for his opinion (you should not even corny constantly end sentences with the words “you don’t think?”) and so on.
      • Don't flirt with his friends! Even if his friends are all Mrs. Universe, no need. Let him know that he is the only guy for you in the whole universe. If you feel that you are irresistibly drawn to flirt, then this means only one thing - you are not yet ready for a monogamous relationship.
      • Discussing a guy with girlfriends is, in general, normal. But this does not negate the need to watch the language and not talk too much, personal or indecent. You can tell your friends about how things are going for you, but you don’t need to tell them exactly how and in what way they are going, unless, of course, we are talking about something dangerous or life-threatening. If you decide to share such personal, even intimate information with someone, then make sure that your boyfriend knows about it and has nothing against it, not to mention the fact that he can tell something like that to his friends. Let him not talk about you as an object!
      • Never lie. You don't just have to be honest, you also have to be open. No need to keep something in yourself, even if it is strange and awkward, as such behavior is fraught with problems in the future. And do not let things take their course, it is better to actually say, and not later suffer from what was not said.
      • No need to conduct some secret experiments and experiments on your boyfriend and evaluate his reaction. It's humiliating, it's not respectful and it's not fair. Think for yourself, would you like to be in his place? By the way, when it comes to coercion to have sex, remember the same thing.
      • Don't go through his phone unless he gives you permission. Expect the same behavior from him.
      • Know the difference between constructive criticism and non-constructive criticism. The second is when you make it clear that you would like the guy to act in some way that is completely disgusting and alien to him. In other words, do not try to redo it - this can lead to a break in relations.

Many girls ask how become the perfect girl what needs to be done for this, what are the ways, methods, tips and recommendations. After all, the ideal girl will have more chances to meet the ideal man, a guy who is worthy and strong. But remember, each guy has his own ideal, so you should just stick to our advice and common interests and be yourself.

In this article, you will learn how become the perfect girl , what are the ways and tips to please a worthy guy or man while remaining yourself. If you start to cheat, cheat and become the wrong person who you really are, then men will not be interested in you for a serious relationship.

stop changing

To be the perfect girl, you just have to stop cheating on your man, as you won't be able to build a perfect relationship if you try to enjoy multiple men. Remember that a lot depends on a woman and it is she who can strengthen relationships or destroy them. A man by nature obeys a woman and, accordingly, if you cheat and do not give a worthy love to a man, then he will begin to look for a replacement for you.

Look after yourself

To become perfect girl , you need to remember that men love with their eyes and first of all they look at the well-groomed girl. It is not necessary to be too beautiful, but you still need to follow basic hygiene, hairdo and smell. Learn how to dress according to the place you are going to go, but don't spend all your time and life just looking beautiful. Learn: How to Become Evil.

go in for sports

To become the perfect girl, you also need to monitor your figure and health. Start playing sports, or at least just make sure that you are not overweight, as this repels men and gives the impression that such a girl does not take care of herself, and will behave the same way in relationships and family.

Get rid of bad habits

To become perfect girl, you need to get rid of your bad habits, stop drinking, smoking and overeating, since even in small doses alcohol is harmful. Worthy and ideal men do not need weak and sick wives and future mothers of their children.

Engage in self-development

To become the perfect girl, you need to not only look after your beauty and health, but also need to develop your mind. A worthy guy and man appreciates beauty, but if it is not emphasized by spiritual and mental beauty, then apart from pleasures, a man will need nothing more from such a girl.

You yourself created such men, so in order for a worthy one to find you, you need to develop. Read books, work at your favorite job, do creative work, do your favorite things, learn women's cares and things that will be useful in family life.

Find the perfect girls

To become the perfect girl , you need to find and start chatting with the perfect girls who will teach you a lot. In such an environment, you will automatically begin to become like them and soon become the perfect girl. It is impossible to become an ideal girl when you communicate with those who are not ideal, and even more so when you communicate with all the men in a row.

Learn to be a woman

To become perfect girl, learn and take an example from real women. They are few today, but try to find them. Today, more than 80% of divorces in the world are due to the fact that men have ceased to be men, and women have ceased to be women. Therefore, learn to be a woman and when you become one, you can find the perfect and real man. Find a real woman who will teach you and in her environment, you can become the same.

If you want to be noticed, and men always turn their eyes only on you, check out these tricks.

1. Be a person

2. Love yourself

3. Stand up for what you believe in

Follow your own feelings and instincts. If there is a person who does not accept this in you, he is clearly not the one whose opinion you need to pay attention to. In addition, all women use different methods of seduction. And that's the beauty of it!

5. Pay attention to your health

6. Take care of your skin

7. Keep Hygiene

8. Pay due attention to your hairstyle

9. Pamper yourself with beauty treatments

10. Be smart!

11. Forget about any manifestation of rudeness

12. Remember to smile

13. Be sociable and open to new things

14. Learn to keep up any conversation

• Don't change your appearance, make-up or hairstyle to convince someone or prove something. Do it just for yourself! Just because you want to be with someone doesn't mean you have to change for that person. If he truly loves you, he will appreciate you for who you really are and will only support your aspirations to do something for yourself.
• Accept other people for who they are. Everyone wants to be accepted and understood. You do not have to be friends with everyone, but you must respect others if you want to be treated with respect too.
• Show your best sides so that others can appreciate how beautiful you are both inside and out.
• Find something that you enjoy doing. In this way, you will attract people who love the same things, and you will also be able to find areas of activity to reveal your unique abilities!
• Always be in a good mood and try to quickly adapt to difficult circumstances.
• Experiment with new fashion trends or just new styles and things for you.
• Don't worry about what others think! Enjoy your life!
• Try not to give the impression of a superficial person. If you are looking for a serious relationship, then, of course, you do not need a partner who will only be interested in how you look. Surprisingly, the same applies to men, or at least to those men who deserve more than 10 minutes of your attention.
• Do not copy other people and do not try to imitate. Originality comes through self-understanding.
• Don't get too caught up in fashion. Being fashionable is good, but don't be afraid to follow your own taste. Men who are truly worth your time and effort will want to be with you - a unique, sincere, cheerful woman, and not some fashion expert.
• Don't be surprised or upset if people don't share your opinion. Differences of opinion are common.
• Don't show too much. Now I mean revealing clothes. Yes, they will pay attention to you, but they are unlikely to be respected.
• And most importantly - love yourself and appreciate your life! Remember that you are unique, and then the sparkle of your happy eyes will conquer any man's heart!

Greetings, dear readers and guests of my blog! Each person has his own ideal of a loved one or beloved. Some men prefer to date brunettes, others blondes, but it's not even about hair color.

Each girl, with a great desire, can do so that she respects and respects her. However, not everyone knows how to become the perfect girl for a guy. That is what we will be talking about today.

Who do men want to see next?

Surely everyone went through unsuccessful ones. Stupid people blame the other person for all mortal sins. But the self-critical and smart will look for the cause in themselves.

Do you think such a person will make such mistakes again in the future? Of course not. He will draw conclusions and everything to become ideal in a relationship.

Beautiful girls often find fault with the male sex. They make a lot of demands: I want a successful, handsome, muscular, rich businessman, or something like that.

However, pickiness is characteristic not only of girls, guys also know how and love to find fault. If we collect all men's dreams in one generalized image, we can understand how to get closer to the ideal.

Learn all the secrets of the mistress and enchantress

So what do guys like?

The beauty. No need to say banal things that beauty is within us and all that. Of course, a person must have a rich spiritual world, but more on that later. As you know, men love with their eyes. You have to like yourself in the mirror. Otherwise, you will not be liked by others.

If you have any complexes about your appearance, you must definitely fight them. Guys love a perfect, neat manicure, so be sure to take care of yourself.

Sexuality and femininity. Sexuality causes attraction of the opposite sex. You don't have to wear a short skirt and stockings to draw attention to yourself. Sexuality comes from within, if you are sensual and filled with energy, then everything is fine with you. Some wardrobe items will emphasize your peculiarity very favorably, this is all that makes the figure look like an hourglass.

openness. For any man, it is important that his passion, but not too relaxed. He needs your openness to make him feel wanted. The girl should be sweet, a little vulnerable and naive in a good way. Only such a young lady will cause a desire to give flowers and gifts.

Balance and tranquility. No one likes to be sawed over trifles. Your chosen one will feel tired and run away from you. A real lady understands male flaws. Such a woman cares, but does not control the actions of her beloved. Believe me, no one wants to live with a woman, like with a mother.

Reading and education. Well, if there are common interests, for this you must have a certain outlook. Moreover, communication will be pleasant if the topics of interest to him also find a place for themselves. This is a very important factor that must not be overlooked, otherwise you will simply stop talking.

The person must be culturally educated. A rude individual who uses obscene language can only cause pity in an adequate person.

Love and respect. A self-sufficient person treats his soul mate with respect. So he won't stoop to some wrong things. There is a category of women who initially perceive certain men as something unworthy of their attention.

Of course, men answer them with the same coin. I'm not saying that you should love an alcoholic or a bully, but understanding and loving your partner's shortcomings is very important.

Independence. Many women misunderstand this word and begin to act as if they need absolutely nothing from the opposite sex. They pay bills at restaurants, buy their own clothes, nail their own nails, and drive their own cars. All these qualities are good, but men should feel like hunters and conquerors of hearts.

But remember that you should not impose yourself and constantly ask for help. No one needs such a relationship. Make sure you have your own social circle, interests and hobbies. In the eyes of the stronger sex, you will look even better.

Accuracy. This quality is very important for a girl. A well-groomed woman should take care of her appearance, the cleanliness of her home. She certainly knows how to cook a delicious dinner from a minimum of products. A real woman is a good housewife and keeper of the hearth.

After reviewing this list, you may suddenly catch yourself thinking that this is not all about you. You don't have to make yourself look like the image I described. After all, each person has his own vision of the ideal. But without these important qualities, it is impossible to build a strong and happy relationship. Therefore, it is necessary to work on your shortcomings.

Find out right now:

How to become a dream girl?

Adults understand that relationships are painstaking work, but the lion's share of this work often falls on the shoulders of the weaker sex. Oddly enough, the future of relationships often depends on the female gender.

First of all, always talk about serious topics with a young person calmly, even if you are upset or upset. Never raise your voice or nag a man. If you have too many demands and claims on your partner, then it would be logical to ask why you should meet with him at all.

Never try to change something in a person. Of course, you need to stimulate him to make money, but you don’t need to make grandiose plans for a calm and insecure man. He will not become the head of a large company. Although a woman has a special energy that she can nourish her man and make him even a president, this is the so-called sexual energy - an energy tonic for men.

Most often, a man is looking for a keeper of the hearth. Keeping a hearth means keeping warm in a relationship. If you can do this, then the relationship will develop in a positive direction.

You must believe in your partner. An ideal passion will never allow itself to call a man a loser. Even if he is weak-willed and failures in his life happen very often, you must believe in him and inspire him.

Show respect for your loved one. The ideal chosen one will treat her man as a worthy person. You must understand the needs and desires of your chosen one and reckon with them.

A decent girl has a world inside, not a struggle, she knows how to smooth out sharp corners. No need to try to prove something, arrange a showdown. Of course, you will achieve your goal, but in the end you will be left alone. A wise woman always uses such qualities as cunning and flexibility at the right moments.

Don't forget freedom. Even the most loving partner will look at will when a short leash is put on him. Eliminate hyper-custody and global control. No need to look at the phone and ask what he had with this or that young lady. Remember that such thoughts come from your complexes and problems.

My dears, now you know how to become the perfect girl for a guy. I hope my tips help you. Bookmark the blog and share information on social networks. Bye everyone!